السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
It’s Saturday 21st October 2023 / 5 Rabī uth-Thāni 1445H
Nikāh and Walīmah
Two weeks ago, a very close friend had his Nikāh performed by Shaykh Muḥammad Saleem Dhorāt Ṣāḥib at the Islamic Dā’wah Academy’s monthly (1st Saturday of every month) Tazkiyah gathering. Being associated with Shaykh Saleem for a very long time, my friend decided to keep the occasion really simple.
He wished to hold his Walīmah the same evening after the Nikāh, intending to feed all the guests from outside Leicester, who had gathered only for the love of Allāh SWT, after the programme. Many couples now hold the Walīmah on the same day as the Nikah. It is beginning a bit of a trend.
Shaykh Saleem commented that although there is no harm in having the Walīmah after the Nikah, it is essential for husband and wife to spend at least 30 minutes in a private setting. This is known as ‘Khalwat-e-Sahīha’. This is very important.
Shaykh went on to say that the Walīmah is the Dāwat after the couple have spent time together. My message today to all couples intending to get married and have a Walīmah is, make sure you both spend at least 30 minutes together after the Nikāh before the Walīmah.
Shaykh Saleem also went on to mention that many families have both on the same day citing convenience as the reason, especially for those travelling long distances. In Shaykh’s words, ‘it has become a day trip’. In reality, it’s not for convenience purposes at all, said Shaykh Saleem.
Love and affection between families and relatives has vanished from the hearts. Gone are the days when 10-15 close relatives used to turn up unannounced as guests and stay a week or two; that also in small terraced houses.
Shaykh also mentioned that back in the day, in India, he recalled people from Bhoria village going to Nagdarah village to taste and enjoy their mangoes, and vice versa. They would spend a week or even two, at each other’s houses. That was just the family environment back then.
May The Almighty grant us all the ability to carry out each action according to Sharī’ah and bless all families and relations with love and affection for each other, Āmeen.
جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا
Request for Du’ās
وَالسَّلَامُ Hanif Dudhwala