السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
It’s Saturday 19th September 2020.
Let’s talk about the ‘Rights of the Wife’ today.
It’s the day that each and every one looks forward to. For many, it is the happiest day of their lives. Yes, you’ve got it, it’s your wedding day.
Having started the preparations some 12 months ago, the big day has finally arrived. The Imām at the Masjid performs a simple ceremony and asks you if you take so and so as your wife. You say yes, and now you are married.
Addressing the husbands today, from the moment you say ‘I accept her …‘, your life should change. You are not single anymore. Yes, you have your friends, but your wife takes priority. It is now your duty and responsibility to look after her, maintain her and fulfil all her obligations, which are binding upon you according to our SharīꜤah.
As far as possible, you should remain the breadwinner in the house. Work hard to earn a Ḥalāl living, and have a happy joyful life with your wife. If, and I pray not, there have been others involved in your life until today, then seek forgiveness from The Almighty and break all contacts.
The most important aspect of a successful marriage is trust. Once it’s gone, the marriage is over. You may still live together, but it will only be a token gesture. Try your utmost to maintain trust with your wife.
Be a good husband, and help your wife as much as possible with the household chores. There is a lot of authentic material available out there including lessons on a happy marriage, by authentic scholars. Take advantage of it, and educate yourself fully.
Finally, make sure you are practicing Islām to the best of your ability. You will not be able to say much to your wife if you yourself are not on the Straight Path.
Almighty Allāh bless all couples with the best understanding and keep them happy with each other for their whole lives, Āmeen.
جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا
Request for DuꜤās
وَالسَّلَامُ Hanif Dudhwala
Complementary Resources
https://www.zamzamacademy.com/playlist/practical-steps-for-a-healthy-marriage/
https://www.zamzamacademy.com/category/fiqh/marriage-and-divorce/
https://daruliftaa.com/books/islamic-guide-to-sexual-relations/