Parents as Educators – Part 3

السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

It’s Wednesday 16th September 2020.

(Continued from Part 2)

Time flies and soon your child is in the final year at secondary school. Do your homework properly in choosing the best college for your child. Keep a copy of your child’s timetable and ensure they attend their classes on a regular basis. At this particular age, as difficult as it may sound, you must have full access to your child’s bedroom, their belongings, and bank accounts. Keep a regular check to ensure they have not fallen prey to any bad or dangerous habits like smoking, drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc. The 2 years at college are very crucial.

Remain involved in your child’s life as much as possible, without appearing to be overbearing. Become your child’s friend, speak freely, and guide them with love and affection. Keep a very good eye on all their gadgets, and social media activity. As much as possible, encourage them to do their work in the living room, where you can observe them.

After college comes the university period. My sincere advice is to choose a university where your children can commute daily with convenience. Today, the modes of transport are very fast; therefore, it is not too difficult to choose a good university which might be within an hour’s train journey. If they have to reside within the university complex, then try your utmost best that they visit home every weekend or, at least, every fortnight.

Your child is now 18 plus and regarded as an adult. However, they still need guidance and advice. Support them in each and every way possible and pray for them every single day. It is like they have gone from a pond to a lake, then from a lake to a river, and then from a river to an ocean. They are in need of your prayers more than any other time of their lives. At the same time, do not be complacent.

Almighty Allāh protect all our children and keep all our generations steadfast on Imān and Islām, Āmeen.

جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا
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وَالسَّلَامُ Hanif Dudhwala