Rights of Parents

السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

It’s Sunday 27th September 2020.

Let’s focus upon the ‘Rights of Parents’ today. The sacrifices made by our Parents for us are absolutely incredible. Well before we are born, our Mother goes through a very delicate period. From birth all the way till they are able, *our Parents will do each and every thing they can to ensure we have as comfortable a life as possible*.

From education to etiquettes, in times of sickness and distress, they are always there for us. The love, compassion and affection they have for us is truly amazing. Once we start understanding the world and come of age, we start forgetting these wonderful sacrifices.

From the age of 11 until the day we get married, there should not be one occasion when we disobey our Parents or talk back to them. During those teenage years, our responsibility is to obey our Parents. They do everything for us.

The day we get married, our real test starts. Who comes first, the Parents or the wife? This is the time to calmly sit down and discuss all the issues regarding Parents with our wives. Explain that she also has Parents. We will allow her to serve her Parents as much as possible and fully help her achieve that. In return, we request her to help us look after our Parents. Once we have our wives on our side, our relationship with our Parents will flourish and prosper.

However, we have to remember that ultimately it is our responsibility as sons and daughters to look after our Parents. Not our wives and husbands. If we all work in partnership with our partners, all will work out well, اِنْ شَاءَ الَّلهُ.

Finally, if one or both of our Parents have left this world, then make sure you do as much Īsāl ath-Thawāb for them as possible, in whatever shape or form it may be. Visit their resting places very regularly and make a practice of donating some Īsāl ath-Thawāb every day.

If you know of any debts they left outstanding, then pay those debts off immediately. If they had rozas (fasts) or Ṣalāh outstanding, pay the Fidyah. Please view my articles on Fidyah, or for a detailed discussion, Laws relating to the deceased and A Practical Guide to Funeral Rites in Islam are excellent resources.

In a nutshell, we should never ever forget the sacrifices made by our Parents for us.

Almighty Allāh look after them at all times and convert their resting places into Gardens of Jannat ul-Firdaus when they depart from this world, Āmeen.

Almighty Allāh reunite us all with our Parents and all our family members in Jannat ul-Firdaus, Āmeen.

جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا
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وَالسَّلَامُ Hanif Dudhwala