السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُI

t’s Friday 12th November / 8 Rabī’ ul-Ākhir 1443H.

Let’s talk about Money today.

During the last 25 years, I have been involved in a number of cases regarding domestic and family disputes. Although there are usually different reasons for the cause of the dispute, one of the most common is money.

So what is the issue? Our beautiful Sharī’ah teaches us to live our lives within our means. The newly married couple should both sit together, work out their earnings and then budget accordingly. Both should have a very clear understanding of all their income and expenses, and nothing should be hidden from each other or kept secret.

However, this will only happen if both husband and wife have true sincere feelings for each other and do not unnecessarily burden one another with demands or expectations that are beyond reach. Many wives demand much more than the husband can provide, whereas many husbands can do a lot more for their wives but they choose not to. Both need to strike the right balance.

Remember, our biggest and most precious asset is our Īmān. It is priceless. It will be the decider of our eternal fate and destiny in the Hereafter. Thereafter comes good health. Each and every part of our body is priceless. Within a split of a second we breathe in and breathe out. What a priceless commodity.

Therefore, if you have Īmān and good health, everything else is bonus. My sincere advice to all my sisters who are wives or wives-to-be – please do not overburden your husband. Live your life within his means and the budget he can manage. It is not at all necessary to have the largest and the best kitchen in the street, equipped with the most expensive appliances.

I have come across disputes over which hoover to buy. They range from £100 to maybe over £500, and will do the same job, more or less. Don’t let the hoover, microwave or fridge freezer dispute make your home into an argument factory.

Addressing my brothers who are husbands already or about to be, please do your best to give your wife the best life you can, according to your means. Yes of course, your budget will be limited. However, if you can afford it, please keep her happy. Spend a little less on yourself, maybe cut down on going out with friends. You don’t have to drive the latest model from the showroom, which will cost you ‘an arm and a leg’ in monthly instalments.

Live a simple and comfortable life. The simpler you live, the happier your house will be. Make you house into a blessing; not a burden.

Almighty Allāh grant all of us the ability to live  a simple life and not to burden each other with demands which cannot be fulfilled, Āmeen.

جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا
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وَالسَّلَامُ Hanif Dudhwala